Like so many couples, Lewis and I decided to go to pre-marital counseling before we got married. It was great for us! A friend of ours ended up recommending a therapist who not only worked great with us both but she was also a follow of Jesus and so she understood how important our faith was to us. She took us through all the obvious conversations of finances, blending children and parenting styles, communication, faith and beliefs, past trauma, and of course future children. When we first started dating this was one of the first conversations we ever had: “Do we want more children”. I was adamant on not wanting any more kids and my husband said the same. However, here we were talking in out in therapy and my husband had a change of heart. I was so frustrated! I felt like it was all put on me now and that if I never agreed to children he would deep down resent me in some way. Needless to say we walked down the aisle and that was the only thing we never came to an agreement on. Through the first six months of our marriage we would pray together and separately about our marriage and whether or not to have children was one of those prayers I reluctantly prayed about. It was after a sermon one Sunday at our church that I felt like God was really telling me to have a child. Again I felt frustrated, like come on God really?! For once can you be on my side! I didn’t say anything right away, I just kept it to myself and prayed on it a few more days. After about a week I realized that I didn’t want to argue with God, I knew that was a battle I didn’t want to fight so I told Lewis I feel like God was telling me we should have a baby. His face just lit up! I made an appointment with my OB right away for a check up and to remove my birth control. After only a month of trying we found out we were expecting with a due date of Feb 2021! Our entire family was so excited, kids were screaming how they couldn’t wait to have a baby sister long before we ever knew what we were having. Little did we know, our journey of bringing Kehlani into this world was only just beginning.